A lot of people dread to go to parties
alone and think “what am I going to do there? I hardly know anyone. I can’t
drink too much and I don’t smoke.” They feel they are not cut out to attend such
social gatherings and be able to gel well and have fun
It’s okay to be not too
comfortable with people you meet for the first time but don’t show your vulnerability
to everyone. Confidence is the key. Confidence comes with practice and knowing
some basic skills
Everyone is not social by birth. Yes,
some definitely are, but some acquire the skills over time
Some are naturally introverted
and are shy; and it is absolutely fine if you feel like that. But by no means
being introverted or being shy will stop you from having fun at a social
gathering
Some key points to know:
Observe- know who the host is,
know the place by observing the layout and what is kept where
Be attentive and improve on your Listening
skills- Pay attention when you are spoken to, or when someone is introducing
him/herself to you, or other important detail being spoken to you or around you.
You don’t want to ask the same question later on
Look relaxed and don’t try to
make any remarks without thinking. Different people construct these comments in
their own ways and start judging you
Think before you speak
Keep the words of wisdom to
yourself unless someone asks for them
Don’t talk nonsense- be sure of
what you are saying
Don’t be a idealist or a good person-
that’s the worst thing you can be at a party
Smile a lot. It exudes confidence
Shake hands or even Hug
Have fun but don’t fall sick
Make sure you don’t get sloshed and
be in a condition that you can’t even get back home
Focus on what the group is like.
You can come into the discussion only once you understand the context a little
bit. Don’t just barge in and ask about the background it might be one of their
personal or inside conversations.
Observe how the individual people
in the group are behaving. Their body language will tell you everything
Compliment people- who doesn’t love
to hear how good their choices are, or how good they look or how fit they are
There are always some sharp
talkers who can be caustic in a way, it is best to not give them fodder to get
at you
Don’t be the know-all gyani and give solutions to everything. Give
an opinion only when it matters or when you really have to make a comment
Be mature and feel a part of the
group and some of the new friends can be your best buddies in no time
If you spot a person in a party
you want to talk to, try to not be a creep. You must have a pick up line.
You can have a smile on your face
and you can casually compliment him/her on something that is unique about him/her-
maybe a tattoo, or the haircut or something else. Ask his/her name and
introduce yourself. Don’t decide to spend all the time there the first time as
it might seem uncomfortable.
